Wedding engagement etiquette serves as a guide to some important points to remember, and things that you should try to avoid if you want your engagement and the announcement to flow smoothly.
It is not that you would have to take everything into consideration, you just need to use the ones that are relevant to your situation and to learn more about those you did not know much about.
With all of that in mind, here are a few simple engagement etiquette guidelines that you could try and take note of before the wedding engagement or proposal.
Communication is KEY
Both of you should make some time to talk about the possibilities of getting married. That means that you should ensure that the feeling is mutual and be sure to discuss matters or issues surrounding some important factors such as children, finances, dreams and aspiration, etc. I am sure you don't want to be completely in shocked when he proposes, which could lead to a hesitating "yes", or even as in some cases a, "Let me think about it" response! So make the effort to talk about your future together before you go about trying to get engaged.
Share Your Reasons For Wanting to Get Marriage
This can be a follow-up to the whole issue of communication. It is very simple to give your views about marriage. Do not just jump into a sacrament as serious as marriage without first discussing the real reason or reasons for wanting to get married. Let your "better half" get a personal view of your feelings and be sincere in your approach and tone. This engagement etiquette is very important!
Discuss the Possibilities of Getting an Engagement Ring
Wearing an engagement ring is viewed as a sort of lifetime commitment by most women. This is because the desire to get married is always at the forefront of your minds and so when you do see the ring being taken out you know that it is the first step towards the rest of your life together. So ensure that discussions are made to either purchase an engagement ring or not. Note though that even though you will talk about it, it does not mean that you will know when he is going to propose! So leave a little room for the element of surprise and try not to force him into getting engaged even though you guys might have discussed the possibilities.
Engagement Etiquette For the Men: Be a Gentleman
What a better way to be a gentleman than to talk to the parents, right? In most cases, "parents" may be referred to as only the "father", which would be most men worst nightmare. Time has evolved though from the days when a woman was seen as "property" who needed her father's permission and consent to get married.
However, there is still something extremely heart-warming, sweet and respectful about a man asking for the parents' blessing, again, especially the father's blessing because after all, she is "daddy's little girl".
To Make It Public or NOT
It is often the belief that every wedding engagement proposal should take place in front of hundred or thousands. This may be your dream proposal but not everybody is the same. Some people actually like it simple, personal and intimate because they say it will have a more magical and memorable feeling.
So if you like the splashy ideas or just plain old simple, the choice is definitely yours. Besides, you have the rest of your lives to share the joys of your marriage with others, but the engagement moment will be just ONCE!
Do Not Get Engaged TOO Early
Love is a wonderful thing and when you feel that fluttery butterfly in your stomach, or whatever other tingly love feeling you develop, be sure as not to rush into a wedding engagement. That may be a very unwise thing to do!!
However, on the flip side of things, do not wait until you think the relationship has reach over 10 years before thinking about the engagement. That may be a bit too drastic.
If you should however decide you want to wait, ensure that you are waiting until your relationship is stable, that means the time will differ from couple to couple. This state of being stable will only strengthen your marriage in the long run.
The bottom line is - make sure you really know each other, and what each other wants from a long term marriage before you even think of committing yourselves to it for the rest of your lives. Trust me, it is not an easy road so make sure that you are comfortable enough to want to spend the rest of your life with one person.
On the other hand though, if ALL is well and you have decided to go for the engagement and the long haul of the eternity together, then go for it. Just be sure to use this engagement etiquette guideline as additional notes to what you already know and practice.