Selecting Your Bridal Party Members For A Lifetime Of Memories

Your bridal party members should include at least a best man and a maid of honor. If you cannot afford bridesmaids and groomsmen then it is no big deal.

But let me assume that you will have at least the normal set of persons in your bridal party. With that being said...

...Let us get the bridal party sorted out!

Ever heard the saying "A chain is as strong as its weakest link?" Well a wedding is as strong as its bridal party members, period!!

That is just MY interpretation of what a good selection of persons can do to the overall effect and outcome of your wedding.

The wedding party is a hand-picked group of persons, usually close friends and family, that has been given the opportunity to join the bride and groom at the altar and at the head table.

There is no hard and fast rule of making this selection nor is there any minimum or maximum number of persons to be selected. It is all based on your preferences.

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However, here are a few pointers that I know will assist you in making your selection process go as smooth as possible.

1. It is always best to have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.

A traditional number of each is three(3), because it makes a nice round figure of eight(8) persons at the head table and for photographic purposes.

Having less bridal party members will also increase your chances of pleasing everybody when it comes time to selecting attire (dresses and tuxedos). It is also easier to coordinate with less persons when rehearsals come around! Trust me on this one, been there done that!

Also, since most people find it only appropriate to get the bridal party members gifts, it will be much cheaper to get a lesser group of persons gifts. This is because the gifts that will be chosen should be above and beyond the normal wedding favors that the other guests will be getting.

2. It is also a good idea to include your siblings.

This is because they are close and important people in your life. Even if you have no siblings, make your cousins or closest friends a part of it just to have a good balance at the end of the day.

Be very careful however to choose close and RELIABLE friends. Want to know why? ...

... remember they will be a part of your photos and memories FOREVER!!

3. Choose wisely.

If you hit a brick wall in your decision to choose between two persons, it is only wise to choose the one that lives closest to you... ... given they are reliable.

This was my choice because it was helpful to me in the long run. They were there to assist with the transportation and they were easy to coordinate with.

Your friends will give you a hard time when it comes to selecting them. So if they are your true friends, they will not feel left out if you let them know your reasons for not including them. So do not feel obligated to include all of them in your bridal party.

They will understand!!

You may even do a trade off if you are the one that feels bad after your choice is made. You can assure them that they will get a great seat in the dining/reception area, and be very sure to pay them special attention and talk with them on your special day.

Now that you have an idea of what to do and what not to do, let me share a bit of information with you about the bridal party members titles and roles.

The role of the bride and groom is very obvious in this case so I will turn my attention to the remainder of the group. This includes:

Select any of the bridal party members link above to read about the duties they have to perform during the whole wedding planning process.

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